All About Flower Girls

Here's a look at the duties -- and fun -- of being a flower girl in a wedding.


Enlarge Image Flower girls lead the way for the bride.

It's an honor to be asked to be a flower girl. It means that the bride thinks you are someone very special, someone who can precede her down the aisle on her wedding day. It's a very important role.

Depending on the size of the wedding, you may be the only flower girl, or there may be others. There might be a ring bearer, too, a young man about your age, whose job is to carry the rings to the altar.

You will be a special member of the bridal party. That means if you are old enough, the bride may ask you to help her get ready or do small errands on the day of the wedding. Before the wedding day, you may be invited to showers or parties.

At the time of the wedding, you'll be included in the rehearsal at the wedding site, the rehearsal dinner, and the picture-taking sessions. There also will be a maid or matron of honor, some bridesmaids, and a best man and groomsmen to stand with the groom.

You will get to wear a beautiful dress as part of your duties. It may be white and similar to the bride's dress, fashioned of silk or taffeta or beautiful cotton. Or it may be a miniversion of the bridesmaids' gowns, in a lovely color the bride has chosen.

You may get to go on a shopping trip with the bride and your mother to choose your dress. What fun that will be! Or you might go to a dressmaker's home or shop to be fitted. Either way, it's most exciting to try on your flower girl dress. You'll probably feel like a fairy princess.

The bride will choose the flowers for you to carry. It may be a bouquet like hers, only smaller. Or it may be a fabric cone full of flowers to match your dress. Some flower girls carry baskets of rose petals and drop them gently down the aisle, creating a beautiful path for the bride to walk on.

The maid of honor and bridesmaids will set the stage for the wedding, going up the aisle first. But your job is very special, for you will go right before the bride, leading her to the altar to marry her groom.

Before the wedding day, it might be a good idea to practice walking down an aisle or straight path. Pretend to carry some flowers, just to get the idea of how it feels to hold your bouquet or basket. Have someone scuff up the bottoms of your shoes a bit with sandpaper so you won't slip.

Depending on the time of the wedding, eat a good breakfast or lunch. It might be a long time until the reception. Take a bubble bath so you'll feel beautiful as can be.

Perhaps your mother, a bridesmaid, or a hairdresser will fix your hair in a special style for the wedding. To help keep your gown lovely, you'll likely dress at the wedding site shortly before the ceremony. Depending on your age, you might get to wear a hint of makeup, perhaps even a light shade of lipstick.

In your hair, you may wear something similar to what the maid of honor and bridesmaids wear. That might be a hat or some real flowers. Or you may wear something special to match your gown.

You may get to wear a tiara of some sort. Or, depending on your hairdo and the style of the wedding, a big bow might look best. The bride will decide on your headpiece, of course. But she'll want you to look beautiful, so you can be sure she'll make a good choice.

Brides usually give special keepsake gifts to members of the wedding party, and you will likely receive a lovely gift, too. Often, the gift is a piece of jewelry, such as a necklace, a bracelet, or earrings. The bride may ask you to wear the special jewelry during the wedding festivities.

During the wedding, you'll stand by the bridesmaids. Or, if you're very small, perhaps you'll go sit with your parents or grandparents near the front of the church.

When the ceremony is over, the wedding party will process back down the aisle, and you'll go with them. At the reception, you can dance and join in the party with everyone else. You will always remember that you were part of a very special day for a very special friend.

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