Let's face it, some of us are upfront by nature while others hold their feelings in reserve. Most people are somewhere in between. It helps to know your love quotient before randomly planning your best Valentine's Day ever. Are you an in-your-face lover? Then go all out for the most dramatic glitz you can muster. Are you more subtle? You'll want to plan a quieter heart-to-heart encounter.

 

Each day this month, deliver a message to your lover. Don't worry, you don't have to be a poet or a writer to make a great impression. Borrow from the masters -- they have written about matters of the heart from the beginning of time. Consult Bartlett's Book of Quotations or go online. If you wish, these messages can come with a tiny gift, a bit of pretty candy perhaps. Start here: "All, everything that I understand, I understand only because I love." -- Leo Tolstoy

Send February love greetings

If you wait until the last minute to order roses, you know what it's like: long lines and picked-over flowers. So take care of this task early. It's fine to shop around, but don't scrimp on quality for this all-important part of Valentine's Day. Ask the florist's advice on presentation as well. Of course, you may have your own ideas about that.

Learn the meaning of roses

 

Now that you've taken care of the visual centerpiece with roses, it's time to think about good taste. Chocolate, of course, is the traditional feel-good, warm-up snack choice. You can either buy fancy chocolates premade or, if you really want to go all out, make your own. Concocting your own sweets has the added advantage of filling the house with a seductive aroma.

Nurture a passion for chocolate

 

You have two ways to go here, cards for the kids and/or a card for your honey. You remember how excited you were as a kid about Valentine's Day cards, don't you? They can be store-bought, or for a fun project, make them with your kids. A personalized card for your honey may carry extra weight over even the nicest one you find in the store -- that's up to you.

See Valentine's cards you can make with your kids

 

If you're the social sort, put on a Valentine's Day party for the kids, for your grown-up couple friends, or for your gal-pals. The same rules for any kind of party planning apply here except all the senses should be addressed at a Valentine's Day party. You need good food, visual treats, preferably an aroma of chocolate, and once it's all over, a sense of touch. Happy Valentine's Day.

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