Your child made a mistake, but you're shouldering the consequences. Keep your family out of trouble and learn liability laws in your state.
Tyler, 15, fancied himself a modern-day Picasso with attitude. At night, he would spray-paint the walls of office buildings. Unfortunately for Tyler, the police and the building owners disagreed with the young artist's idea of self-expression.
When Tyler was found guilty of vandalism, his sentence included repainting the walls, which shouldn't surprise anyone. The fact that his parents were ordered by the court to help Tyler repaint the walls might.
Like Tyler's mother and father, parents around the country are sharing the punishment doled out to their children who cause injury and damage. In states with parental liability laws, mom and dad can be held accountable if their children are convicted, and may be ordered to repay victims for damages and, in some instances, to share criminal responsibility and jail time for negligence in supervising their children.
Frequently, assets -- both parents' and child's -- are tapped for restitution. For example, a victim's $2,000 medical bill can be collected from the guilty youth's savings account, the family checking account, or both.
Parent liability laws vary across the country. In California, for example, parents can be fined or jailed for allowing children to participate in gangs. Wisconsin requires parents to pay child support when their underage kids have babies. In Florida, parents can serve jail time if their child hurts another with a gun that the parents left accessible. In 29 states and the District of Columbia, families can be evicted from public housing if a child is using or selling drugs. This is by no means a complete list and laws are always changing, but visiting your state's Web site can lead you to more information about individual liability laws.
Why are parents being taken to task -- and to court -- for the actions of their children? The legal system assumes that parents, the first line of defense against juvenile crime, have some control over their child's actions. (When the family is not intact, the parent who has day-to-day custody is usually responsible.) Failing to supervise a child is a chief component of parental liability, although anyone who has dropped off a teenager at school, only to have him slip out the back door, knows that total supervision is almost impossible.
Nonetheless, parental liability laws were passed to reduce juvenile crime and to compensate victims. The U.S. Department of Justice reports that in 2001, almost 800,000 juveniles were arrested for crimes ranging from property damage to drug abuse.
Brette McWhorter Sember, lawyer and author of 15 books, including How to Parent with Your Ex: Working Together for Your Child's Best Interest (Sourcebooks), supports the philosophy behind parental liability laws. "From a victim's standpoint, someone has to be responsible," Sember says, noting that the laws deal with intentional damage or injury. If the child causes damage accidentally, it could be covered under the parents' insurance policies, she says.
Some opponents of parental liability worry that the laws may be used against poor or single parents, who have a tough time supervising kids because of inadequate childcare or the need to hold multiple jobs. They also wonder whether punishing parents may further deteriorate a parent-child relationship, resulting in domestic violence or child abuse.
No matter what your stance on parental accountability, take measures to keep your family out of trouble.
If you are faced with a situation in which your child is being charged with wrongdoing, there are some steps you should take to protect yourself and your family's legal rights.
Originally published in Better Homes and Gardens magazine, June 2006.