Hi, Sorry there are no flowers that only butterflies will like. If a plant will attract butterflies it will also attract other pollinators. But, keep in mind that bee stings in the garden are very rare. Bees are very important members of the garden and they are too busy to pay attention to your kids unless they actively try to swat at them. Bees do not attack just for the heck of it. And, teaching your kids about bees and the important role they play in society is a worthwhile experience.